Since I became a father, and still learning to be a good father, I've been watching my mouth in front of my kids. It has been my belief that what they hear from me reflects on how they see me as a father.
Never did I bad mouthed even when I get angry. Which I haven't been doing as I grew in my Christian life. Though it didn't came that fast, my tongue was created anew by the Lord. I admit I was really really bad or should I say evil on how I speak. But praise the Lord, He made me change!
When it comes to promises, I am very careful on this. Especially, kids are very particular with a promise, they will never stop whining until they get what they want. And if they accepted it as a promise, a promise will always be promise. They will never stop hoping that one day, the promise will come true.
I also learned not to say a punishment that I could not do in reality. It weakens the authority when we say "I will do this to you," then you realizes that what you've said was impossible to do. When we say, "You are not going to have your dinner!" Then don't let them! Prove to them that what you've said will happen. And then they will learn.
Talking with someone while the kids are around must remind us not to talk on topics which are "for adults only." Talking about other people while the kids are listening is not good ethics. The kids might apply the same when they are talking to others also.
Kids need words of encouragement. I felt ashamed when one of my kids told me, with tears, "I am crying because you laughed at me." Even a "haha" discourages. Talking nice to my kids is now one of my motto.
Anyway, just be watchful. Be careful little tongue what you say! Our little kids are listening!
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